Task vs Purpose

In order to win in life, our ability to not equate task to purpose is critical. Your task may seem menial, uninteresting and even random. Don’t ever allow the assignment to hijack nor define your purpose. You may be tasked with watching sheep for a season David, but your purpose is to reign as king of Israel.

Here’s what you need to know about managing your task:

1. Recognize that your task is temporary

2. Your task may seem unrelated to your purpose, but it’s perfecting you for it

3. Maintain a heart posture of trust, gratitude and worship

4. Your task provides you the luxury to GROW in your anointing away from public exposure

4. You WILL leverage the skill set provided by your task to transition you into purpose


I encourage you to give 💯 today, no matter how insignificant and unrelated to your purpose your task might seem today. The truth is, it’s more relevant than you can see right now. Live fully in THIS moment. Bring the best of yourself to the task at hand, and watch how God honors you for how you managed obscurity. Be encouraged and share with a friend who needs to be reminded that THE TASK IS JUST TEMPORARY.


Embracing the Grace in Obscurity

As one year ends and transitions into a brand new series of 365 chances to grow, there must be preparation. If you live in a “faith-based” environment such as myself, then you know the barrage of slogans, decrees and war cries started back in November. You’ve heard them, “Blessings Unforeseen in Eighteen”. I know, I know, total cheese fest!  But hundreds of thousands of people will dance, cry, shout and feel the spirit at the pronunciation of this and similar sayings around midnight on New Year’s. Amidst all the catchy phrases, soul stirring New Year projections, and epic prophetic announcements, we will go home on incredible spiritual highs. We will partake in bountiful spreads and toast to what God’s about to do in our lives. Only, we won’t stop long enough to consider that He does his best work, and best displays His grace in obscurity.

See, we will embrace the declaration over 2018, journal our deepest prayers, list what we’re believing for, and maybe even create a vision board. But that’s it! We will then fall into the same inactivity of previous years, just hoping and waiting for things to miraculously manifest. Even more disturbing is the immediate need to reveal our blessings and display our “come up” for all to see. The frustration that comes from being in neutral, supposedly waiting on God, is nearly maddening. The reality of heaven turning off the lights, tucking us away and requiring us to participate in our development becomes unbearable.  When the decrees are made, we expect God to instantly change our tax bracket without us having to learn money management.

We expect to be invited to sit at tables of great influence, but can barely differentiate a dessert fork from a salad fork. We’re not prepared to hold meaningful conversations about global topics, and wouldn’t know the appropriate protocol or what to wear in that environment. We believe that it is our year that God is bringing the one, but won’t engage in healing our souls from past hurts, so we can be available and fully capable of loving. We desire to get married but fail to prepare for marriage by learning how to communicate, how to cook, manage a home, (applies to both genders), healthy living, or simply doing whatever is required to become “the one”. Becoming someone that somebody wouldn’t want to live without requires development and preparation. Is God just supposed to let us be great at the snap of a finger?

Not only is your full participation required, but God will perfect you in darkness, in obscurity. You’ll write songs that  eclipse the top songs on the Billboard charts and no one will hear them. You may work twice as hard and be smarter than the person that gets the promotion, all while no one even notices your contribution. What if you audition for a lead role and get cast in a supporting role because no one knows your name yet? You might even be an incredible speaker or preacher, full of revelation and anointing but you’re stuck in your small little town coordinating Vacation Bible School every summer. See, obscurity will expose your heart, your motives and your passion. Will you go just as hard at your gift when there are no eyes on you?

Obscurity allows you to be shaped, to be formed and be corrected while you’re still in the developmental stage. God himself, being the potter, will place you on the wheel and His own hands will apply pressure to areas that are not smooth, that are imperfect. He’ll touch the places that, left unhealed, will later cause you to crack and shatter under the spotlight. The amount of pressure applied on clay while on the wheel determines the quality of the vessel made as well as the longevity of use obtained from it. Who wants to start well, but not end well with a strong finish? How many people do we see and read about who’ve made incredible contributions? They’ve wowed the world with their talents, but their character causes them to become notorious for their brokenness.

To be hidden, while being perfected… that’s the definition of grace. God covers us with darkness, so we can be authenticated. There’s a reason a wine that’s been aged in solitude is costly… it’s been perfected! So many of us want to “be great” while the world is watching. But greatness is harnessed in obscurity. You sharpen your gifts and skills when your only audience is sheep (ask David!). Master character, integrity, excellence, and wholeness before your name is in lights. The greater the spotlight the more every flaw, imperfection, attitude and deficiency is equally exposed along with your gift.

No one is expecting you to be perfect, but by all means be prepared. Obscurity will work for your good if you don’t mishandle it. Jesus altered the scope of history in 3.5 years as a result of 30 years in obscurity. Why are we in such a rush? In 2018 don’t get frustrated with obscurity, leverage it. If God cares to even pull you into a season of obscurity, that’s a down payment on your greatness. When you have completed your time of hiding, heaven itself will announce your arrival. You will know, everyone will know. Until then, do the work and get ready.

Here are my top ten tips for managing obscurity:

1. Relax, you’re not the only one

2. Stop fighting the process, surrender

3. Complaining elongates the Process

4. Capitalize on solitude; pray and listen

5. Let God show you your heart

6. Let God heal your heart

7. STUDY for where you are going

8. Personal development; get a Coach, a Counselor, submit to a God-fearing Pastor

9. Get a clear vision and plan

10. Wait for the green light, then GO

Growth: On the Way to Maturity

Do you remember having your food cut up as a child? Great care would be taken to ensure that your bite sizes had no bones and were manageable, requiring little to no effort on your part. Your parents and care givers recognized your limitations, knowing that your capacity was not yet fully developed. There was an unspoken understanding that time, patience and experience combined would eventually equip you to cut up your own food. The expectation was that as you grew and developed you would be taught and eventually trusted to extract the bones by yourself. So then imagine being 30 years old or even 45 and still needing someone to cut up your food. That would pose a serious issue socially, and point towards the presence of some type of developmental delay. Only thing worse would be refusing to eat at all due to the presence of bones.

Maturity eats the meat and throws out the bones, while immaturity gets offended that there are bones. Life is full of uncertainty and challenges. Nothing is easy! Nothing is handed to us in a perfect state; not relationships, marriages, careers, or ministries. The common denominator in all these arenas is the presence of PEOPLE. If someone out there has figured out how to excel on their own without the help of other people, by all means kindly share your secret.

The most incredible yet infuriating creatures on this planet are people. Broken,beautiful, inspiring, contradictory, hilarious, maddening, perfectly imperfect all wrapped into one. Because we are raised to get what we want when we want it, many of us mishandle people. When we are accustomed to having things done for us and never having to extend ourselves, we develop unrealistic expectations rooted in immaturity.

I remember meeting my husband and thinking that he was a nice guy but there were too many bones. This meant I would have to work. I was going to have to stretch myself to embrace someone that didn’t come ready-made and perfectly prepared for me. The bones made me uncomfortable and I wasn’t sure I wanted to be bothered. For a moment I was prepared to walk away from our friendship simply because the presence of boney areas of his life inconvenienced me. Reality is it revealed my immaturity. My expectations were unrealistic and I had watched a nauseating amount of romance films.

I nearly missed out on one of the greatest gifts God ever gave me because I was offended that it came with bones. Look, that’s just how this life thing kinda goes. You pray for a “Promised Land”, God brings you to it and then expects you to rid the land of giants and whatever else is occupying your land. You can’t just walk away and pray that the giants die or that God leads you to another promise. Immaturity will have you offended that your promise requires your participation. Offended that all the work wasn’t done for you.

Maturity on the other hand says ” this is just a bone, throw it out and eat the meat”. There’s a grace and compassion that comes when you choose to be mature. You can celebrate another’s genius but understand their human frailty. You learn from their wisdom but don’t disqualify them when you disagree in a separate area. When you’re mature you don’t walk away from a job because a colleague doesn’t like you. You determine to learn and grow from your work experience, despite the obstacles. Don’t leave a church you said God sent you to over foolishness. Don’t quit on life because it presented a challenge or difficulty… it’s supposed to! And you’re supposed to GROW THROUGH the challenges. Don’t give up on your dream because you encounter pushback.

Life is a journey and maturity is a choice. There’s so much beauty that can be seen if we decide to not get tripped up. We can’t be offended over minute things, majoring in minor things when the whole is actually greater than the sum of the parts. I’m not saying that we should overlook character issues or tolerate negative and toxic environments in the name of maturity. I am saying that sometimes we walk away without having even tried. Maturity requires a discerning eye, so look a little deeper into those around you. Find a reason to love, believe and hope for the best in others and for heaven’s sake… EAT THE MEAT!


How many times have you heard someone use the phrase ” Take care of yourself” or “Be good to yourself”? At least a million, if you’re like me. It’s normally followed with the suggestion of seeing a movie, going out to a restaurant, or indulging in a spa day. I love a good massage and spa mani pedi like anyone else, but why do these activities exhaustively translate to self care? A “mental health” day trip to the mall does wonders for lifting spirits. The adrenaline rush of finding the perfect hand bag or a couture piece at a discounted price can feel like Christmas. But how far do these things go in really promoting solid self care.

We invest money into things that only provide temporary relief. We make declarations about how we want to feel better, be better, and do better, without taking the necessary steps to realize our claims. Our real issues and real struggles are denied true expression and healing, rather only receiving band aides. The irony is we’ll pay for a fancy dinner, new hair, or a new purse without question. But the services and people that can actually help us grow spiritually, intellectually, in our careers, or just as better human beings, we don’t see the value in. Many would rather spend money at the spa than invest in themselves by buying books to expand their thinking.

Some people have amazing business ideas but won’t invest in certifications, programs, courses, and mentors. Their idea is just supposed to magically actualize and make them millions. Some want to be elevated to new heights in their spiritual journey but won’t pay for a teaching series, a workshop or conference that can be the catalyst to launching them higher. Does anyone else find this to be a strange phenomenon? The $200 dollars spent on a pair of shoes is an investment into someone else’s dream. There is no residual benefit for you past that initial moment of purchase. The same $200 used to get with a personal trainer, a life coach or even invested into an online class will actually benefit you in the long term. That’s an investment in you! The degree of growth and amount of harvest from true self investment is unlimited. If you’re waiting for people to validate, push and believe in your dream before you make a move, you’ll waste years on the sidelines. It’s time you start investing into yourself!

I believe that within each person lies the potential to be great!  We all foster the divine hand print of God inside of us. The difference between those who embrace and express greatness, versus those who don’t is simply the presence or absence of investment. You must violently take hold of your purpose and destiny by force. Love yourself enough to read a book. Be good to yourself and pay for coaching that will get your life and career unstuck. Take care of yourself by investing into your spiritual growth. It is insanity to engage in the same behaviors and thought patterns and expect different results. If your destiny is as incredible as you believe it to be, then invest into it. The ultimate power of an investment is that it may be inconvenient, sacrificial, and may be even seemingly insignificant BUT the return is always greater, exponential and worth the trouble. There’s always something of substance to show for what was put in. So I say to you dear friend; Be good to yourself! Take care of yourself!

Do You Need A Mentor?

I am learning that there’s a growing sector of people, in our culture, who are self professed “Lone Rangers”. Fear and insecurity have masked themselves as pride and self sufficiency, coaxing us to wave flags of individuality. As much as I believe in and celebrate uniqueness, I’m watching people drown, meanwhile refusing to ask for help. Because we are a generation raised without Fathers, accustomed to being left behind, abandoned and unaffirmed, we have believed a lie. ” I don’t need anybody”! “I’ve made it this far by myself !” ” No one understands me anyway!”

The truth is that we were created to need each other. We are wired for community. Our hearts respond to love and our souls crave connection. But we must be willing to run to the light houses. We must fight the urge to live in seclusion and in caves. Come off of the island!!!! Give your soul permission to be loved and your heart the right to be molded. No matter how much you know or how great your achievements, you need someone who will keep it real with you. Inevitably you will plateaux and reach your perceived limits. You need someone who is not afraid to love you with truth, even when it hurts. You need a fresh set of eyes and ideas to get you unstuck and to enlarge your perspective of possibilities. There’s no growth beyond your degree of knowledge. Here’s the thing… You don’t know everything! OUCH!!! There are amazing people out there just looking for someone to pour their life into. There are those whose experiences will so resonate with yours.

You can find a mentor for almost any area of your life; spirituality, parenting, marriage, business, education etc… You can connect with mentors through various organizations and platforms. Your local church, community groups, interest groups, and work can all be starting points to identifying someone who is a bit further along than you are. Of course you want to ensure that whoever you approach is a person of honor and integrity. They don’t have to be perfect ( nobody is!), but just make sure they can be trusted with your heart, and your development. A good mentor isn’t looking to benefit from connecting with you, they genuinely want to help and support you. You don’t have to be Superman in front of a good mentor. He or she graciously encourages you to take the cape off and just be Clark Kent.

So, how do you know if you need a mentor?

*You are an island

*You believe that you are self sufficient

*You are embarrassed to admit to feeling “stuck”

*You would rather suffer in silence than ask for help

*Theres no apparent growth in your life and development

*Being Superman 24/7 has become exhausting

If any of these characteristics sound like you, please take heart. My aim in writing this blog post is not to beat you up. There are more people in this space of needing a mentor than you would think. Hopefully, this has gotten you thinking. Prayerfully, you are closer to opening your heart, and lifting your voice to say ” GET ME OFF THIS ISLAND! HELP!”

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